How often do you hear yourself saying…
“Oh, it’s no big deal.”
“Don’t worry about it.”
“Never mind, it’s not important.”
As you sweep your needs under the rug in your relationship and minimize what’s important to you.
Losing yourself sucks doesn’t it?
And the worst part is your needs don’t really disappear when you do this. So you’re not fooling anyone.
This IS a big deal.
You’ve been trained your whole life to put other’s needs first and that no man likes a needy woman, so of course you’re terrified if there is any hesitation at all by him to embrace your stated needs.
It took every ounce of courage you had to bring it up in the first place, and now you have no energy left to set boundaries around it and show you respect yourself. And so you lose yourself a little more.
Now when you look at him all you see are all the lumps under the rug from those needs you tried to sweep under it, and your frustration and resentment builds.
This is a recipe for disaster.
And as long as you continue doing this it will zap your energy and confidence and lead to you disappearing in your relationship.
Imagine what your life would be like when you feel worthy of your needs and show you respect yourself by standing in your power and setting clear boundaries.
Is it possible this would transform your relationships?
Would you be more excited and energized when you know exactly how to get your needs met without being seen as needy?
This is exactly what I have been helping women to do for over 20 years so they can attract the man of their dreams like this woman:
“You were so right, after working with you I had plenty of quality men to choose from. But THEN!!!! I met the kind, brilliant, goofy, fun, joyful, loving man of my dreams. Thanks for all your help!” – Leyea
If you tend to lose yourself in your relationships, reach out and book a call with me and we’ll get clear on what’s been causing you to disappear, clarify your goals and desires and create a step-by-step game plan so you can have the success in love you have always desired.